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Bakersfield Angel

June 4, 2022

 

Nope. Not this kind of angel.

Here is something that happened, something that is true.

Someone I know had a bad day. The other morning, he set his work portfolio on top of his car. This tidy, zippered book held his life. His business checks. His receipts. The invoices he needed to send to clients. Records of all the work he had done for the past month that needed to be billed out.

He set this work book on top of his car and drove away.

He realized what he had done after he drove thirty miles down the hill to town and got out of the car to do errands.

His book of life was gone.

Haven’t we all done this?

Left something on top of the car and driven off?

I’ve done it with soft drinks and tea. My mama lost a library book that way. My daughter left her wallet on top of a gas pump once.

My friend spent the rest of the day in a panic, driving up and down the freeway near his house, hoping to catch a glimpse of his book. Maybe it had fallen off the car and rolled down the embankment? He had a friend hang his head out the window as they drove along, flashers on.

There was no book.

This is a fine time to insert a reminder, a public service announcement of sorts, that perhaps it is not such a good idea for us to have books that contain all of our lives, books whose loss would leave us devastated, distraught, bereft.

No book should hold that much power. Continue Reading…

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Blackberry Wrangling: Next Best Thing to Therapy?

May 28, 2022

 

Native succulents that I saw on a walk with my dear friend last week. So cool! Walks with friends are also a good remedy for anxiety.

 

Sometimes I am a little slow.

I know that when I am feeling anxious or glum (See my post from last week if you missed it), a surefire remedy for the sadness is to go outside and tackle my blackberry patch. I don’t think this work has ever failed me.

I sometimes have massage clients ask me questions about me. Not very often. It’s rare and sweet. I don’t expect it. I am generally the one who asks the questions: How are you? Where are you hurting? Is anything changing through our work together? What can I do for you today?

When they do ask questions, the most common one is “Do you ever get massages?”

(Yes. I have a friend who is a wonderful therapist. We try to do trades once a month. I had a massage just this week, actually.)

And, kind of surprisingly, they sometimes ask, “What do you do for fun?”

Give massages, of course! And substitute teach! 

I don’t think anyone would really buy that.

I answer that I like to garden and read (although you wouldn’t know it by the number of books I finish. A more honest response would be, “I like to check books out from the library, put them by my bed, and pick one out to look at for a minute or so before I fall asleep every night). I also like to cook interesting dishes. I bought some Berbere seasoning on Amazon not long ago and love making an Ethiopian chicken dish. It’s not difficult. Just time consuming. And the flavor! Continue Reading…