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September 7, 2024

OK. Don’t judge me. While in Japan, we only went to McDonald’s once. At the airport. On the way home. But I loved this Tsukimi shake! In Japan, in the autumn months, the moon is especially bright, so people gather to celebrate the harvest and take part in “Tsukimi,” or moon viewing events. All the special McDonald’s Tsukimi burgers have an egg on them, or “the moon in the form of a fried egg.” My milkshake did not have an egg, but it had “the toasty sweet taste of autumn in a cup.” And I loved this image on the cup of the rabbits watching the full moon. Why don’t the McDonald’s here in the US do cool things like this?

 

Maybe one of the best parts of traveling is that moment when you finally find yourself back at your front door again: key in hand, stepping over the threshold. Home.

It’s a gift that you only get after going away, just one of many that travel delivers. And no doubt, traveling is a gift, one that I don’t take for granted, since being able to move around the world with a US passport is a luxury that many do not have.

My son and I are just back from ten days in Tokyo (including a day trip on an express train to see Mt. Fuji). I wouldn’t trade those days for anything. And yet? I was so glad to get home again yesterday. Home with my garden where I went out this evening and picked a zucchini and cherry tomatoes, eggplant and squash. Home with a shower and toilet that I didn’t need to use Google translate for. Home with crickets chirping out the window and windows I can open. Home.

We flew out of Tokyo Friday around 4:00 pm Tokyo time, were in the air for nearly ten hours, and got into San Jose around 10:00 am Friday, which was technically six hours before we left. My brain still has trouble comprehending that it is possible to travel back in time, that it’s not just science fiction. Note to self: On the way out to Tokyo, we left around noon California time and arrived in Tokyo the next day, quite frazzled. If you are not aware of this, and do not think to do your Wordle before collapsing after the long journey, you will wreck your Wordle streak. Sad!

So it is good to be home now, but our body clocks are still wonky, and probably will be for a few days. My beloved son didn’t wake up until 1:00 pm this afternoon. I was wide awake at midnight. Finally got to sleep, and definitely could have slept longer, but sweet Biscuit decided it was past time for me to be up. So I threw clothes in the washer (there is always laundry), made green tea with tea bags from Japan, baked chicken in the oven before it got too hot out since the temperature was set to get to nearly 90 today, unpacked my suitcase, and decided where some of my souvenirs would live, including a tiny, smiling Buddha statue. And as I puttered around the house, happy to be here, I thought about the things that I want to hold onto, that I want to remember, from our trip:

The way that the 7-11 stores sell ramen and rice bowls, soups and salads, and the kind clerks offer to heat up your soup and dinner plates if you’d like, and always make sure to include utensils, including chopsticks, and occasionally forks for people who look like me.

Also? The fact that Tokyo is, without a doubt, home to the cleanest public bathrooms that I have ever seen. Which sets it apart from most places I have traveled to, including the US. I was lucky enough to have lunch with a dear friend from college who lives in Tokyo now. I asked, “Are folks from Japan horrified the first time they step into a gas station bathroom in the US?”

“Yes,” she said.

Yes, they are.

So if you are feeling a little unsure of your digestive issues, which is something that can happen when you are traveling and eating unfamiliar foods or possibly eating primarily noodles and rice and not many vegetables, have no fear about finding clean, public restrooms in Tokyo. They are everywhere! Every toilet I encountered, even the ones at train stations and the malls, had bidets. Luxury! Most of them also had little dispensers of toilet seat cleaning solution on the wall by the toilet, so you could disinfect the seat if you wanted. None of this paper toilet seat coverage stuff, the kind we have here, that usually falls into the toilet before you even have a chance to sit down. They also had little chairs attached to the side of the stalls, which would hold a baby or toddler. Made me remember those days long ago when I would desperately try to hold one of my babies and go to the bathroom in a public place at the same time. It wasn’t easy. Oh! And all of the bathroom door stalls go all the way to the floor. So you never see feet sticking out. Talk about privacy.

It seems like they’ve thought of so many things, simple things, to make life nicer.

(I realize that it is interesting that about half of this post is about bathrooms. Honestly, the bathrooms were not a major part of our trip and were not the high point. But the fact that they were so different and clean and lovely? Noteworthy!)

The public transportation system in Tokyo is also marvelous. There was no need for us to rent a car (especially since they drive on the left side of the road there, and that would be a little confusing for me). And Google maps makes it easy to get around. Just put in where you are, where you want to go, and multiple options pop up. We loaded our Suica transportation cards when we first arrived with 2000 yen each (about $14), and that lasted for days. The underground train stations are full of restaurants and even shopping malls. We could have eaten for days at the options at the station that was closest to our hotel.

Also, (so you don’t think we were only eating and visiting public restrooms the entire time we were there):

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August 31, 2024

I ran across a headline for an old New Yorker article on my Facebook feed yesterday. (Facebook must realize I am traveling.)  It said, “Travel turns us into the worst version of ourselves while convincing us that we’re at our best.”

I’ve been in Tokyo for five days now. Unfortunately, I think the author has a point. Because I am noticing parts of myself that are not so pleasant. Honestly, though? That’s not a bad thing. Turns out that travel is a handy shortcut and a strange gift in that it nudges my Shadow out into the light. But as to the author’s other point: I am nowhere close to my “best” right now, whatever that is supposed to be. (And even the concept of best? That’s Shadow talking and ego popping up. Interesting, no?)

My Shadow side, my ego, is very good at trying to stay shiny and bright while at home, in my day-to-day normal interactions. I am pleasant and (relatively) competent. All that can disappear when suddenly I am dealing with a 10 hour flight and a 16 hour time difference and the absence of much that is familiar, including the ability to make any sense out of written language. In this new place, I do not know how to run the bathtub and the directions are in Japanese.  I cannot read menus or figure out how to work the fancy toilet. Eventually, through trial and error? I get it (the toilet. Not the menus. Unless they have pictures. Pictures help). But not right away. Which is frustrating and uncomfortable and disorienting.

Anything that feels frustrating, uncomfortable and disorienting? Shadow’s there.

Travel shines a spotlight on ego.

Also? The people that I love most in the world? They are very annoying at times while traveling! This is something that has been constant in all of my trips. I think my traveling companions might even say the same about me, their sweet friend or mother.

So becoming aware of  Shadow is a gift, albeit a rough one. But if I can learn to sit with all those things that make me uncomfortable, angry, annoyed, tired? Sit with them without trying to change them, but somehow, maybe even welcome them? Well. That’s all right then.

But of course, and thankfully,  Shadow viewing is not the only gift of travel.

For me, seeing how life goes on quite nicely for people who live in entirely different ways from anything I’ve ever seen or used to.  The way we do things in my little town, in my state and country? Not the only way, people. Not the only way at all.

And  of course, there is much to love about this place, about all the places I’ve been blessed to visit. Culture, sights, thousands of years of history, and the food!  Other random things I’m noticing and appreciating about Tokyo: how the streets are so clean, even though there are very few trashcans around. Our cities have trashcans everywhere, but also, trash! How is that possible that this city is so clean? I love that there are vending machines with cold water and drinks everywhere. Also, next to those machines? Recycle bins with very stern signs about NOT putting other trash there. And people don’t.

I love that the convenience stores have entire meals on plates that you can pick up and take home and that they are reasonably priced. I love that the subway system and the above ground train system move us around so affordably, that there really is no need to drive. I love that the subway announcements are not only in Japanese but also in English. I do not know how we would get around without that English translation. I love that you can purchase just about anything you need at the convenience stores. Not just food, but also umbrellas! Which came in handy yesterday when it was very rainy. And the umbrellas did not fall apart in the wind. Miracle. I love that I can take a bath and fill up the oversized tub and not have one second of guilt about using too much water, which is something I struggle with in my beloved drought-prone California, which is why I hardly ever take baths and keep my showers short.

More on this later when I’ve had a chance to process it all, and also possibly when I am slightly less jetlagged.  But really? So good to be here. And the chance to do a little Shadow work at the same time? Priceless.