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Days that Feel Dark

September 13, 2025

I stepped in poop this morning. It wasn’t outside, which would have made more sense, if I had been heading out in the dark to fetch the newspapers. I remember the days when I lived at home with my Mom and Dad. If I was the first one up in the morning, I would often go out and grab the newspapers—the Auburn Journal and Sacramento Bee. My folks used to spend the first hours of the day at the breakfast table, with coffee and newspapers. I would join them sometimes—my Dad would hand me the Bee’s Scene Section, which always had feature stories and Dear Abby and Ann Landers.

Nope. I stepped on poop inside the house, as I staggered out of bed and headed to the bathroom. I’m not sure which beloved pet left the pile for me. I’m guessing the cat.

Some days are like that.

Some weeks are like that, too.

It was yet another rough week in our national news cycle, marked by the assassination of conservative activist Charlie Kirk, who was killed at a college event he was hosting in Orem, Utah. His murder was tragic; all politically motivated shootings are, as are school shootings and domestic violence incidents. There was much initial vitriol from conservative commentators, who assumed that Kirk’s assassin was someone who identified with the political left. President Trump blamed the shooting on “the radical left.” Elon Musk posted that “the Left is the party of murder.”

The tone changed a little when it was announced that the alleged killer, Tyler Robinson, was actually raised in a Republican, gun-owning family. U.S Representative Nancy Mace, who repeatedly uses slurs against transgender people, initially said that “Democrats own this, 100 percent,” but later, after Robinson was arrested, wrote, “We know Charlie Kirk would want us to pray for such an evil, and lost individual like Tyler Robinson to find Jesus Christ. We will try to do the same.” Continue Reading…

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Catalina Dreaming

August 30, 2025

Life on Catalina Island would be a lot harder for most visitors if it wasn’t for the workers who show up and take care of all the things.

It is wonderful to go on vacation and have a fantastic time.

But coming home to regular life after that amazing time?

Not so fun.

It still makes sense to get away. I just need to remember that there is a relationship between how great a vacation is and how difficult it is to settle back into my ordinary days once I’m home again. If my time away was “meh,” then coming home is welcome because many things are easier at home: cooking, showering, sleeping. My favorite food, pillow, and body wash all live at home and don’t go on vacation with me. But if a vacation is wonderful, especially if it includes spending time with someone I love who I don’t see very often, then coming home is not so great.

My son and I are just back from three nights on Catalina Island, where my daughter has been working this summer as a zip line operator. It’s her second summer helping resort guests enjoy zip line rides—last summer up in Tahoe and this summer on Catalina. Reentry for us, after three nights on that beautiful island? Rough, I tell you. I’m missing her already.

I am also fairly certain that we will never again experience Catalina like we did these last days—mostly because we were fortunate enough to enjoy all the activities her company offers for free. Which meant that we could go on the dolphin tour, the flying fish tour, the bison expedition, the underwater submarine tour, the VIP tour of the Catalina Casino, play mini-golf, go on the zip line, borrow kayaks, and enjoy a speed boat ride to Two Harbors, a sleepier town on the other side of the island from Avalon—at no cost. We kept an unofficial tally of the money we saved because my daughter was able to bring us along on tours without paying. It was at least $1,000. Continue Reading…