Presence

Ironing Is Terrible

May 20, 2023

This was how my day started.

(My wise friends say I should buy a steamer! They might be right! But then what would I have had to write about this week?)

I ironed my son’s graduation robe the other morning. He had to wear it for the senior awards assembly at school. All the seniors put on their gowns and hats and marched in together as the rest of the school and a handful of parents watched. It was a lovely ceremony with many students honored for their years of academic and athletic achievements.

I remember many of my son’s classmates from when I volunteered in their classrooms when they were in elementary school. They all have gotten so smart (and tall!). Many of them are heading off to college to study things like applied physics and environmental engineering and music and global studies (that last one is my son’s).

So all of that was great!

The thing that was not so great?

The ironing of the robe first thing this morning, because I was too tired to do it last night.

I hate ironing.

I hate ironing and my son has never ironed anything in his life, so while I’m sure some would argue that it should be his responsibility to iron his own graduation robe, I decided that this would be a challenge we would tackle another day.

I have read books about people who enjoy ironing. They find it meditative.

This has never been my experience. Continue Reading…

Presence, Success

A Little Melancholy

May 13, 2023

I am trying not to feel too bad about the passage of time.

I knew in some part of my head that my children’s school days would not last forever.

It just always seemed like they would.

There would always be another Monday morning where we were running late and had to drive a little too fast down the hill to make it to school on time. There would always be another email from the parent club asking for help, inviting folks to join a committee, to be a bigger part of what was going on at the school.

I was a faithful helper in my kids’ classrooms through elementary school, but did less as they got older. I confess that I haven’t done much at all to help at the high school. I admired the parents who showed up and gave their time. I was grateful for them. Maybe I thought that someday I would make a little more time to be a bigger part of all the goings on.

But I didn’t.

And now?

It’s too late.

My son will be graduating in two weeks, and the twice a day drive I’ve made for the last years to drop him off and pick him up at day’s end will not be something that I have to do anymore.

(That I get to do anymore.)

Sure, it will be good to save some money on gasoline, some wear on my trusty, older car. Continue Reading…